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Nancy Roman

Category Archives: Marriage

Old Dog, New Tricks

It’s the middle of Winter, and it’s gone on way too long. Four days of Winter is probably enough for me. One day of snow, One day of Christmas, One day of sitting by the fire… oh wait, I hate the fourth day too. Make that three days. Anyway, here’s a reprise of my Winter …

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The Benefit Of The Doubt

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest …

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O Christmas Pan!

Time for Christmas reruns… Here’s my favorite Christmas story. To my husband’s chagrin, I tell it often.   O CHRISTMAS PAN!   I met my husband in November 1989. By Christmas, we were pretty much living together.  We weren’t kids – he was in his forties and I was thirty-eight. So we didn’t see much …

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Settle Down!

I would give you advice for the New Year, except that I can’t give it as well as this little girl who effectively tells her divorced parents – and the world – to just settle down. You don’t have to be too high or too low… Just be at the level of your heart.  

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Twenty-Five Reasons

Today is my 25th wedding anniversary. That is no small accomplishment for either of us. We are incredibly lucky that we found each other, because there is a very good likelihood that no one else would have been able to stand us. But 25 yearrs ago, we said “I do.”  And we do. Stand each …

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I Never Imagined

Recently I overheard two women discussing how their lives turned out so differently from what they had imagined. It got me to thinking about how that might be true for me too. Only when I really thought about it, I could not claim my life was different from what I had pictured, because I realized …

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Excitement At The Car Show

(Here’s an oldie while I continue to work on a post that is refusing to come together….) *** MY DAY OFF You know what’s almost as much fun as doing what you love to do? Doing what your spouse loves to do. Just kidding. Doing what my husband likes to do is usually awful. But …

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What I Learned About Marriage From My Parents

When my Dad died 6 years ago, my parents had been married 64 years. This week marks their 70th wedding anniversary. And we will celebrate – because they are certainly still married. In my mother’s heart and in our memories. I learned a lot about marriage from the example they set. I’m not saying I …

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Houseguests

I heard it again yesterday. The sound in the chimney that can only mean one thing. Swifts. We’ve had these houseguests before. Several times. A few years ago, I start hearing strange noises in the chimney. My husband is hard of hearing, but he doesn’t let that stop him from telling me I am nuts …

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Decisions, Decisions

Years ago, I became friends with a co-worker whose life was very unlike my Ozzie and Harriet existence. Especially in the boyfriend arena. I had no boyfriend of record. Karen had a boyfriend with a record. And I don’t mean he was churning out hits like Ozzie’s son Ricky. No. He was an ex-con. Jeff …

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