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Nancy Roman

Category Archives: kindness

Taking Sides

Although I recently posted about giving people the benefit of the doubt, I admit that this practice doesn’t always work. Most importantly, we should never explain away or excuse bigotry, violence, or abuse. But even in more simple everyday ways, we need – when giving the benefit of the doubt – to make sure we …

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Another Good Deed Goes Noticed

I stopped for gas a few days ago at one of the busiest gas stations near my home. So, yes, it was a Cumberland Farms. I don’t really know if these convenience stores exist all over the country or just in New England, but if you aren’t familiar with Cumby’s, let me just say that …

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The Benefit Of The Doubt

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest …

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Think.

2018. Another year. What do I wish to accomplish? Of course I want to lose weight and exercise and clean the house and take better care of my skin. And also, of course, write another book. But on a day-to-day basis. I want to think. And I want those thoughts to go to work.  Maybe not go to work. To come …

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Life Lessons From The Yoga Dude

I have been practicing Yoga for 16 years. I’m still in the beginner’s class, and I probably will be for all my life. But that is okay with me. Yoga is called Practice for a reason. It is not called Competition. So it does not matter if I’m not good at it. What matters is …

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Thank You, Eddie

In the early 80s, I worked for an Easter Seal Rehabilitation Center. The work we did was mostly physical therapy, speech therapy, and vocational rehabilitation. It was in the north end of Hartford, Connecticut – one of the poorest sections of Hartford. I was glad we were there, even if it was not the best …

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A Lesson In Shame

This week, after stopping at the Starbucks in my old hometown, I took a little shortcut down a side street in order to avoid the traffic on the busy avenue. And I was accosted and beaten. By a memory. It’s not an incident that I had completely forgotten. There have been several occasions in the …

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Helping Out

Have you ever gotten one of those emails from Amazon, asking you to help answer a question?  One that says something like: “A customer has asked a question about a product that you have purchased in the past. Can you help this person with an answer?” I’ve been asked about the fragrance of a face …

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How My Father Retired

In the middle of October, my thoughts naturally return to my father. His birthday is in a few days. He would be 95. He died at 88, and so he had a good, long, and happy life. I don’t think he had too many regrets. He worked hard. He was honest. He was unceasingly cheerful. …

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More Advice – And Why You Can Ignore It

I give lots and lots of advice. Just as if I know what the hell I’m talking about. I don’t have any qualifications for all this advice – except that I’m intelligent, good-hearted – and old. Old people are allowed to give advice, because they have so much experience. Of course, in my case, I’m …

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