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Nancy Roman

Category Archives: Work

Not Going First

Here’s a story: When my nephew was a little boy, he had a friend that he often played with. Every time they played a game, his small friend always started the game by saying, “I’ll go first!” I remember wanting my nephew to SAY something about this – to stand up for himself and say, …

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You Are Entitled

Yesterday, a friend posted this meme on Facebook. And in a way, I agree. It aggravates me (like it probably aggravates everyone) to hear people complain that Life is not fair. No. Life is not fair. Sometimes you don’t get the job, even though you deserve it. Sometimes your marriage ends even though you gave …

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The Benefit Of The Doubt

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest …

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Thank You, Eddie

In the early 80s, I worked for an Easter Seal Rehabilitation Center. The work we did was mostly physical therapy, speech therapy, and vocational rehabilitation. It was in the north end of Hartford, Connecticut – one of the poorest sections of Hartford. I was glad we were there, even if it was not the best …

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How My Father Retired

In the middle of October, my thoughts naturally return to my father. His birthday is in a few days. He would be 95. He died at 88, and so he had a good, long, and happy life. I don’t think he had too many regrets. He worked hard. He was honest. He was unceasingly cheerful. …

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Advice – The Good, The Bad, The Terrible

Over my many years, I’ve received lots of advice. Overwhelmingly, it’s been good advice. Like from my mother: “If you have to choose between getting a chore done and having fun, pick the fun. Years later, you won’t remember how many chores were done late, just how much fun you had.” And from my father: …

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Second Opinion

In the last few years I have seen several instances where seeking a second opinion has saved someone’s life – or at least saved someone from unnecessary treatment or surgery. An incorrect diagnosis nearly doomed someone I love. I am grateful every day that he sought that second opinion. No one person has all the …

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An Honor To Meet Her

This week, my husband and I treated ourselves to dinner at our favorite restaurant. We only eat there once or twice a year. First, because it is fabulously expensive. And second, because it keeps it fabulously special. But oh my, it is fabulous. A charming setting with fine French cuisine exquisitely prepared and served. Soon …

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Stop Doing That

All through our lives, we have to do stuff we really don’t want to do. We all pay bills and taxes, and that really sucks. I wish my Grandma was here with her little change purse, giving me a quarter right now. We all obey laws – stopping at red lights and picking up dog …

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Hang Up

With this blogging year being all about Kindness, I am reading back on my posts and seeing that perhaps I am just a little too-good-to-be-true. I sound maybe like if Mother Teresa and Gandhi had a child. Only better. With that, I thought I would post a blog I wrote about six years ago. Where …

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