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Nancy Roman

Category Archives: Friendship

Remembering A Friend

About a year ago, I wrote about kindness and friendship, and how I helped but ultimately failed a dear friend. I discovered yesterday that at the time I wrote that essay, my friend had already been dead for two years. Someone I loved – someone who had helped me and hurt me and I had …

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Interfere

I dispense a lot of advice on this blog. Clothing advice, dog-raising advice, aging advice, housekeeping advice – and most often – happiness advice. But it’s a lot harder to give advice in real life than it is to write about all my incredible (incredibly small, that is) wisdom. I really do believe my advice …

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Bird Droppings

When I was a freshman in high school, I had a pretty long walk to school. And I added to my long walk by meeting up with some friends who did not live near me. I had to walk several blocks in the opposite direction of the school in order to join them. I could …

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Incomprehensible

Now that I am finally retired from my income-producing vocation (as opposed to Writing, my income-reducing avocation) – I have found that is is really easy to slip into hermit mode. I am solitary by nature. Sitting at my computer most of the day, and sometimes not leaving the house for days, I have to …

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Taking Sides

Although I recently posted about giving people the benefit of the doubt, I admit that this practice doesn’t always work. Most importantly, we should never explain away or excuse bigotry, violence, or abuse. But even in more simple everyday ways, we need – when giving the benefit of the doubt – to make sure we …

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Another Year Older And Deeper In Debt

Oh, not the kind of debt that includes credit cards and mortgages. Of course, I have that kind of debt. But today is another birthday, and I’m deeper in debt because of all the people and things that help me cope – that help me be happy, when sometimes in this crazy year it would …

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Another Good Deed Goes Noticed

I stopped for gas a few days ago at one of the busiest gas stations near my home. So, yes, it was a Cumberland Farms. I don’t really know if these convenience stores exist all over the country or just in New England, but if you aren’t familiar with Cumby’s, let me just say that …

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Losing It (And Rediscovering It)

A few days ago I misplaced something in my own house. It was a small stack of books. Five copies of my own novel that were earmarked for a giveaway on Goodreads. I had them. They were on the kitchen counter, right near the breadbox. They were there for days. And then I picked them …

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Just Wipe It Off

Isn’t wonderful how our loved ones are completely perfect? Just kidding. My loved ones drive me crazy. A single friend once told me she admires the way I so generously accept my husband’s faults. I laughed really hard at that one. I don’t accept his faults. They really irk me. (I love the word ‘irk’, …

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Sending The Right Message

Yesterday, when I was driving home from the supermarket, ahead of me was one of those big, fancy pickup trucks. As the light turned red, I came up close on his tail, and I saw that he had a decal on the back window of his cab. This was no normal decal – no Praise …

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