Category Archives: Advice
Coping With My Insecurities
I wrote last week about my pathological sweet need to be liked. (Validation). I have thought about it a lot since. I’ve decided to take some very small baby steps towards coping with my insecurities. For me – (and it could be different for you, but perhaps there is some universal truth here) – I …
Validation
As I re-read my last post (Overdone?), one sentence I wrote keeps haunting me: “I don’t like not being liked.” Well OMG – the lightning bolts are descending from heaven, jolting my everpresent coffee right out of my hands. This sentence pretty much explains my whole life to date. (and that is getting to be …
Overdone?
My Twitter account (Theo-sophy) got controversial a week ago. Poor Theo. Let’s blame him, okay? Just like you can blame the dog when someone in the room farts. Theo took over my Twitter feed a few months ago, and he has gotten himself into a bit of hot water. Specifically, an argument with one of …
Deleted Heroes
What do you do when people you admire disappoint you? In your personal life, when someone disappoints you, you either forgive them and love them despite their failings, or you say goodbye and leave them behind you. But what about those other people you admire? Famous people – celebrities, politicians, artists. Maybe ‘hero’ is too …
Indulging
A few days ago I was feeling sad. There was no particular source of my sadness – no single or series of events to make me unhappy or bring the tears to my eyes. Just that general overall feeling of Sadness. I probably could not explain it if I had to, and I probably don’t …
Abandon Ship!
In my first novel, JUST WHAT I ALWAYS WANTED, the main character, Cynthia, is considering making a momentous change in her life. She’s frightened of course, and she turns to her sister, Angela, for advice. Angela responds with a question: “Why do you think there were so many empty lifeboats on the Titanic?” she asked. …
Losing My Temper
I don’t handle criticism well. I can pretend to shrug it off, but truthfully, it’s hard. It’s hard to have someone say you’re wrong. It’s harder for someone to say you’re dumb. And it is downright scary for someone to say vicious, even threatening, things about you. Two years ago, I tweeted often about my …
Advice From My Best Friend – Part 3
OMG – Theo’s daily Twitter advice continues to grow more popular! Two months ago, I said that Theo is more popular than I am. Well. He just took over my Twitter feed. As of yesterday, my Twitter is no longer called Not Quite Old. It is now officially Theo-sophy I am determined, …
Love Your Stuff
Recently I wrote that I love my things, but my things don’t love me back. (The Things I Love) And I do love my stuff. But I often find myself minimizing my stuff. You know, pretending that I don’t care about it or that I only bought it because it was on sale – the …
Working Just Enough
Years ago I went out to San Diego to attend a wedding. I had never been to California before. I think now – at the place I am in my life right now – I would fit in quite well. But thirty-five years ago, it was quite a shock. Because I met people who were …
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