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Nancy Roman

Category Archives: Advice

Incomprehensible

Now that I am finally retired from my income-producing vocation (as opposed to Writing, my income-reducing avocation) – I have found that is is really easy to slip into hermit mode. I am solitary by nature. Sitting at my computer most of the day, and sometimes not leaving the house for days, I have to …

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Taking Sides

Although I recently posted about giving people the benefit of the doubt, I admit that this practice doesn’t always work. Most importantly, we should never explain away or excuse bigotry, violence, or abuse. But even in more simple everyday ways, we need – when giving the benefit of the doubt – to make sure we …

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Another Year Older And Deeper In Debt

Oh, not the kind of debt that includes credit cards and mortgages. Of course, I have that kind of debt. But today is another birthday, and I’m deeper in debt because of all the people and things that help me cope – that help me be happy, when sometimes in this crazy year it would …

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Another Good Deed Goes Noticed

I stopped for gas a few days ago at one of the busiest gas stations near my home. So, yes, it was a Cumberland Farms. I don’t really know if these convenience stores exist all over the country or just in New England, but if you aren’t familiar with Cumby’s, let me just say that …

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The Benefit Of The Doubt

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest …

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Losing It (And Rediscovering It)

A few days ago I misplaced something in my own house. It was a small stack of books. Five copies of my own novel that were earmarked for a giveaway on Goodreads. I had them. They were on the kitchen counter, right near the breadbox. They were there for days. And then I picked them …

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A List Of Your Awesomeness

This weekend I went to a birthday celebration. The man who was being honored is a ballroom dancer, and so the party was filled with other dancers. Oh my, the dancing was so lovely, I watched like I was at the ballet. And I need to take some dance lessons this year! But something else …

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Think.

2018. Another year. What do I wish to accomplish? Of course I want to lose weight and exercise and clean the house and take better care of my skin. And also, of course, write another book. But on a day-to-day basis. I want to think. And I want those thoughts to go to work.  Maybe not go to work. To come …

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Life Lessons From The Yoga Dude

I have been practicing Yoga for 16 years. I’m still in the beginner’s class, and I probably will be for all my life. But that is okay with me. Yoga is called Practice for a reason. It is not called Competition. So it does not matter if I’m not good at it. What matters is …

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Not Playing It Safe

I am by nature a cautious person. It’s a well-entrenched part of who I am. And I don’t really expect to change significantly as I age. I don’t believe I will ever climb onto the back of a motorcycle or scale Mount Everest or throw a fit in public. Or go to Costco without a list. …

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