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Nancy Roman

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Remembering A Friend

About a year ago, I wrote about kindness and friendship, and how I helped but ultimately failed a dear friend. I discovered yesterday that at the time I wrote that essay, my friend had already been dead for two years. Someone I loved – someone who had helped me and hurt me and I had …

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What You Can Learn

Well, here it is again. Another birthday. I’m now 68. How in the world did that happen? In some ways, being 68 is scary. But overall, it’s not so bad. My father lived to 88. My mother is still gracing this world with her lovely presence at 95. So I figure I probably still have …

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Coping With My Insecurities

I wrote last week about my pathological sweet need to be liked. (Validation). I have thought about it a lot since. I’ve decided to take some very small baby steps towards coping with my insecurities. For me – (and it could be different for you, but perhaps there is some universal truth here) – I …

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Validation

As I re-read my last post (Overdone?), one sentence I wrote keeps haunting me: “I don’t like not being liked.” Well OMG – the lightning bolts are descending from heaven, jolting my everpresent coffee right out of my hands. This sentence pretty much explains my whole life to date. (and that is getting to be …

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Overdone?

My Twitter account (Theo-sophy) got controversial a week ago. Poor Theo. Let’s blame him, okay? Just like you can blame the dog when someone in the room farts. Theo took over my Twitter feed a few months ago, and he has gotten himself into a bit of hot water. Specifically, an argument with one of …

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Deleted Heroes

What do you do when people you admire disappoint you? In your personal life, when someone disappoints you, you either forgive them and love them despite their failings, or you say goodbye and leave them behind you. But what about those other people you admire? Famous people – celebrities, politicians, artists. Maybe ‘hero’ is too …

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A Freebie!

Just a quick message – I have a freebie for you! The Kindle version of my first novel, JUST WHAT I ALWAYS WANTED, is FREE !!! On Amazon for the next 24 hours! (Ends on January 3rd) Happy New Year, everyone. Here’s the link:  https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MJLN2SA/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1 PS. I hope if you enjoy it, you will consider writing …

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Not So Scary

I went to Zumba this week – how I love to dance away a few calories – although I probably need to Zumba about fifteen hours a day for the next month to make an impact on Christmas cookies. The class is conducted as a separate entity inside a very nice and busy workout gym. …

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My New Old Passion

When I was sixteen, my parents surprised me at Christmas by giving me oil paints, brushes, and canvasses. I could not have been more suprised – or more pleased. I was overwhelmed by the confidence my parents had in me. They thought I was good enough to paint – really paint – with the real …

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Becoming My Mother

Often, I read a joke or hear someone say, “Oh no, I’m becoming my mother!” And I think… “Oh God! Oh, How I wish I were!” Because my mother is everything I could ever hope to be.  Except short. She’s short. Only the bottom shelves of her kitchen cabinets have ever been useful to her. …

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