Here’s a post from three years ago… on the 50th anniversary of the death of John F. Kennedy.
(I promise I will be silly again in a few days, but I’m somber today.)
One night over dinner, about thirty years ago, my father was feeling philosophical. He started talking about events that happen in your life that change you. Not just for a while, or in some superficial way – but change who you are.
He told me about how his sister’s husband had died suddenly of a heart attack – which I remembered had happened when I was about nine. That would have made my father still in his thirties. He said he was the one who had to tell my uncle’s mother that her son was dead. He said it was the most difficult thing he had ever done, and that it changed him forever.
I asked him what he thought were the three most life-changing events in his life.
Dad thought about it for a minute and said, “World War II, marrying your mother, and having you kids.”
Not a bad answer.
Interesting though that here was a man who fought in a war when he was just a kid, and earned two purple hearts, and I’m sure saw some horrific things – but telling an old woman her son was dead was harder.
And Dad asked me what my three most significant events were.
Now I was only in my early thirties – still not married, still struggling to find a career. I hadn’t really experienced that much of life.
But I didn’t have to consider it for long. I knew what events had changed me.
“The Vietnam War, The Beatles, and Kennedy’s Assassination.”
My father scoffed a bit at my mention of The Beatles.
But I defended my choices.
Those events – including the phenomenon that was The Beatles – transformed the way I looked at the world. The Beatles changed our culture – they made it possible young people to question the status quo. And I did. Vietnam made me question what adults were telling me. I understood for the first time that important people can be wrong. People with power lie.
And the first change of all was Kennedy’s assassination. I adored Kennedy. His death was the most shocking event I had ever experienced. And I experienced it in my home. His death was personal. Evil was in my living room. I saw Oswald murdered. Witnessed murder from my living room. I was twelve.
It has been fifty years. Those days in November are as clear to me as when I was that little girl – stunned and bewildered in front of the TV. The person that I am – the one who always needs to know WHY – was formed on November 22, 1963.
I wrote a poem recently for my other blog, With Resistance. And today, it seems appropriate to share it with you.
KENNEDY WHEN I WAS TWELVE
The old Sylvania
Had three channels
Though one was ghosted
It didn’t matter those few cold days
They were the same
Speaking softly over repeated images
I stood more than sat
Before the grainy pictures
My hands to my mouth
When the accused was murdered
In my own living room
I decided it didn’t happen
Threw out the papers
Burned the scrapbook
On Main Street that summer
I stopped before the record store
Where in the window
The President’s photo
Framed in black
This is too long I thought
For my dream
And so he died for me
And not November
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- Tagged: Kennedy, Kennedy assassination, The Beatles, Viet Nam
At that age I probably would have said the same thing, but no one asked me.
I was only a baby when Kennedy died so don’t remember anything about that time, I have been sitting here asking my self what three things effected me and you know what I can’t think of a damn think maybe my brain is still asleep
The assassinations of the sixties changed me too. I have always worried for the safety of heroes as a result. As to the others, well, my surgery (34 years ago tomorrow) that turned me from being very sick, to not sick at all for a long time changed my life in a very positive way.
The last one is a silly one. When I worked at Harvard Law School the secretary to the smartest professor shared my office. He came in one day and asked her to call maintenance to change a light bulb in the house he was renting from the University. It was in a table lamp. It made me stop doubting myself, because even the smartest people are incredibly stupid or inept sometimes. I stopped comparing myself and just figured that I was good at somethings, poor at others and the world would simply have to take me as I am.
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Happy Thanksgiving, Nancy!
Happy Thanksgiving, Nancy.
Some events are forever etched in my brains. A wonderful poem. ❤
I was 18 and in college. A searing memory. I think 9/11 would be the big one for younger people.
I was seven. I remember the teacher telling us, and walking home from school to find my mother crying in the living room. It’s my first recollection of ever seeing my mother cry.