Will I Ever Listen?
Will I ever listen –
I give lots and lots of advice. I am always writing about stuff that you should do or not do. Stuff to make you feel better or at least not feel so bad. Stuff to help you through difficult times or to enjoy sweet times.
I’m very good at doling out the advice.
And lots of people seem to appreciate it.
Apparently, I am not one of those people.
This year, I disregarded two of my most valuable pieces of advice.
I wrote about hearing a woman tease her friend about the romance novel her friend was reading. And the romance-novel friend kind of laughed and agreed that the book was a little trashy. I felt bad. Because I wanted the romance-novel friend to say, “I LOVE THIS BOOK!” Because she did. And there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
But I have been a little ashamed this year of what I like.
I like makeup.
In fact, I love makeup.
I love wearing it, I love buying it, I love how it looks on my shelf. I love reading about it in blogs and in Youtube videos.
And writing about it in blogs looked like fun. And I saw a tiny niche that I could fill – makeup and skincare advice for us stylish, but older, women.
And it would give me an excuse to spend as much money as I already spend.
So I started a blog … 8 months ago … “Age Before Beauty.”
But I didn’t promote it. I hardly mentioned it. I added a link at the top of this blog, but that’s all.
Because I didn’t think it “fit” with how deep and thoughtful I am.
I am deep.
I am thoughtful.
And I love me my makeup.
But here’s the thing.
I violated another one of my ‘rules’:
Oh, we all have to do shit we hate – pay taxes, go to work with a headcold, not hit people who don’t share our opinions.
But, we also do stuff we dislike that we should just STOP. Stop reading a book you’re not enjoying, stop going to parties you don’t want to attend.
But did I listen to me?
Because after eight months of blogging about makeup, I have to admit:
I don’t really like it.
I don’t like taking photos of little tubes and silly swatches on the back of my hand.
And even though I like to tell people what products I really love, I really dislike advising anyone else to use the same thing. For one thing, it might not work for someone else. For another thing, next week I might decide I don’t like it after all. In fact, probably tomorrow I’ll decide I don’t like it after all. I have a new favorite several times a month. And one thing I KNOW I dislike is saying, “Sorry, I made a mistake.”
I am going to stop what I don’t enjoy. I don’t know yet whether I will actually delete that blog. Maybe occasionally I will feel like writing about some cool makeup product. But I doubt it.
So here’s my final makeup advice:
Use what works for you. Use a lot. Use a little. Use nothing at all.
It’s all good.
Women are beautiful.
Any way at all.
Enjoy your beauty. Enjoy your own self.